"We took a wrong turn, then another wrong turn and then we ended up in a field." Peter was asked by his Year 4 class teacher why he was 20 minutes late for school. It was the end of term, he was exhausted and I had let him sleep in. The school knew this. I … Continue reading Why do they say “I’m OK”?
Month: May 2017
Possibly one of the many lessons that I have been slow to learn over the years is when to stop hoping things will get better. When to stop trusting, believing and imagining good intentions in others. When to realise that very many 'professionals' are anything but 'professional' and that someone may have the title 'expert' … Continue reading Know when to stop flogging the dead horse.
A guest blog from an anonymous professional So what do you do if the suggestions that your child’s difficulties ‘don’t exist, as professionals can’t see them’ or that ‘you are causing or fabricating your child’s difficulties’ start to be aired publicly? These are some tips based on shared experiences. This is not intended to be … Continue reading Facing Allegations of Fabricated and Induced Illness
I collected Peter from his residential school today and his clothes smelled of the school washing powder. So what? Jo sat an exam last week. Her mum and dad knew nothing about it until the last minute. DJ had his hair cut without his mum or dad knowing. The first they knew was a photo … Continue reading Washing Powder
I learned a lot from the contents of my Subject Access Request. Under the Data Protection Act I requested a copy of Peter's files and along they came. In theory, there should have been no great surprises should there? School staff should work with me in the spirit of a shared aim of 'the best … Continue reading Bullied by Headteachers: No fresh starts allowed.
I, as a rule, have good skin. I got a few spots on my forehead as a teenager, and that was it, I was very fortunate. Now as I type, I have a nasty itchy rash all along both sides of my chin, not unlike beardy snog burn. I haven’t got this from snogging, sadly. … Continue reading The hidden costs of fighting with the LA
Rosie and Jo's Mum The advent of the fidget cube and the fidget spinner has prompted some interesting online conversations about the need for fidget toys in the classroom. There are compelling arguments both for and against the use of these toys: They make noises that can be distracting to other pupils. Clicking pens and … Continue reading Using fidget toys
Each time I hear of a 'ban' on the latest craze of fidget toys my stomach churns. You see, with good reason, I don't trust all school staff to understand that equality causes harm to many with SEND. Equality can prevent Equity as Linda Graham demonstrates.... I do wonder, if we were to ask teaching … Continue reading Equality can cause inequity – blanket school policies should be challenged.
My husband, a programmer in an arcane computer language (AS400 if you’re interested) was asked to give an example of one of something I’m good at. “She’s relatively computer literate” he said carefully. “Relatively.” Fine praise indeed. As a child I learned simple coding on a wobbly ZX81 which would randomly lose all its … Continue reading Autism and Minecraft.
‘Well of course he will never get a Statement, or the new EHCP. Never. He has to be working at half his chronological age.” “Well of course the Ed Psych might well say he needs a sensory room, but how on earth can we pay for that? It’s all very well of him to say … Continue reading Lies and Misinformation #SEN #EHCP #Autism
By Rosie and Jo's mum. It's a regularly recounted scenario on forums for parents of children with ASD. They are describing how an undiagnosed sibling is displaying behaviour that is also indicative of ASD. The response often thrown at them very quickly is "That is just learned behaviour." This quickly shuts down the conversation and … Continue reading Learned behaviour